Max spoke something similar to this in a couple's coaching session we had.

Max and I have continuously gone round and round with the place of me seeing his confrontation at being lovingly touched as rejection.  He doesn't understand why I can't see that it really is because we are so connected and close that he gets challenged by the intimacy.  I have a tremendously difficult time understanding it and often use it to sabotage our relationship by not believing it is more than fodder and his resistance to me proves it.  It hurts a lot in both directions. During one of our couple's coaching sessions where I had asked for more "sweet" times, meaning that we cuddled and loved each other more.  I wanted to find some balance. i understand that the relationship is meant to be a challenge as any "wake up" relationship is, but I also feel that we aren't ever going to be in danger of falling asleep with each other and the intensity of our work is often overwhelming and just plain depressing to work through our shit to such a degree.  I wanted something that felt nice to balance it out. His resistance triggered my feelings of rejection as usual.  In a moment of his exasperation at my lack of understanding, he finally took me by the hand and said something similar to the words below to me in a way that I fully let them in and could receive it.  It was an incredible moment in our relationship, one I will honestly treasure forever! We both surrendered.

Soon after the coaching session ended, however, I could feel my armies come on strong to defend my beliefs that I am not lovable. I took action against it and asked for him to put it in writing so that I had something to refer to. This is what he posted on FB.

Elle, I want you. I want to touch you. I want to love you. I want to let you love me. I want this relationship. I want to find freedom together.

I want it so much that I will do it even when it's uncomfortable. I will do it even when my virus tries to block & sabotage it. When my body forgets that it likes it and pulls back, I will remember and lean in. When I crave the quick comfort of an easier woman, I will return to the nourishing fulfillment of our heat.

My white flag is up

I surrender

to loving you