Joe's second post - week 1

Report from week 1 of relationship research with Keri Denheeten

Unconscious things I do that block love:
-use my busy schedule and work to not return text messages or see her.
-talk disproportionately about business or work. 
-talk about my relationships and escapades with other women in front of her so she pulls away.
-put my attention on other women instead of her
-shrink my body away when she gives me affection so she'll pull away.
-use being tired, having roommates, and lack of time to avoid having sex.

Her feelings are very hurt by these behaviors. And I am really frustrated also because I say all I want is a woman to love me and yet here she is and look what I do. So my work is to pay attention to all of those behaviors and work to stop them & let the love in.

Her work, is to continue to love me ferociously and not take it personally when I block her. But instead, see it as a success that she can love me beyond what I am able to take, and thus help me increase my capacity to receive. We discovered that this is part of her purpose in life, to help people learn to receive more love by loving them so fiercely they have to stretch. But it requires her not to get hit when she pushes too far, as that really is the goal.

So it's a practice. And I'm so grateful that she has chosen me to practice with.