When I first started oming I noticed that I had no idea what I wanted to ask for in making requests. When I did have an idea it looked like I wanted to request to be stroked harder and faster! I remember that I had no approval for asking for that so I didn't. I thought I would be judged as some sort of porn star or something for asking for a harder and faster stroke! I could hear other women in nests at circle asking for less pressure and lighter strokes and I had so much judgement around myself that something was wrong with me that I could barely feel anything!

I now know that I had layers and years of conditioning and numbing my sensitivity level that had me need more pressure and stimulation in order to feel. Om has since stripped these layers and I am super sensitive now, but originally I was too sensitive to handle the harshness of what I was experiencing around me throughout my life, so I desensitized myself in various ways. This is very common in our society. Now I have better Tools to manage my sensitivity and can recognize the effects of what is happening around me better. I have learned not to numb out but to feel into my body and trust what it tells me more. And sometimes it is still overwhelming and I take on things that aren't mine or can't tell the difference of what is and isn't mine.
One of the greatest things about oming for me is that what happens in my Oms directly reflects and correlates what I am experiencing in my life in some way. So the sensitivity of my clit and how numbed out I was wasn't just about my sex, it showed up everywhere in my life.