January 8, 2015
Any thoughts? I am experiencing the feeling of not being
liked today. I am taking a new approach
of being in approval of not being liked, of being ok with that I’m not
everyone’s cup of tea, that some people aren’t going to understand that. I asked myself “Does not being liked by a few
make me unlikable?” the answer is “no.”
I sat with “I am unlikable.” I asked “is this true?” again, “no”. I asked “What makes me unlikable to these
people? I am different. What do I gain from being different? I get to
be true to myself.” My body relaxes and softens around my solar plexus. “Is being true to who you truly are more
important to you than being liked, Keri? Yes.
Is it worth being disliked by people who may not understand you?
Yes. Can you like yourself in the face
of those who don’t like you and/or don’t understand you? Would you like someone
who is true to who they are in these circumstances as well over someone who
isn’t? Yes, I find it more admirable to
be yourself even when it is more difficult because others aren’t going to
understand. Do you think it is even
possible to be liked by everyone all the time? No. Do you think that those people who are often
liked by most people are unlikable when faced with the few that don’t like
them? No. Do you think that people often
dislike people simply because of their own challenges within themselves and it
often doesn’t have anything to do with the subject of their dislike? Yes.
Should the people who are often liked by most others dislike themselves because
of the few who disapprove of them? No.
Should anyone, for that matter, dislike his/herself because anyone or
everyone dislikes him/her? No.” And yet
I often find myself troubled in the face of this. I would say that it is insanity, the
perpetual wheel of my own existence mattering to others more than I do. It always comes back around to me being in
approval of myself, despite and especially when others are not in approval of
me. The truth is, it is actually harder
for me to be on the other end of it. It
is easier for me to be on the defensive and assume that others don’t like me
then it is for me to face that others do like me and even more so when it is
not just like me, but a deep appreciation, connection, and love for me; then I
really don’t know how to handle it. Deep
thoughts by Jack Handy, lol, not really, they are by me, but my mind is
overactive for the moment and I became concerned about copyright. Anyway, they reminded me of his useless
ramblings and I felt the need to justify my desire to post these useless ramblings
perchance they are of some value to someone regardless of my opinion that they
are useless.
liked today. I am taking a new approach
of being in approval of not being liked, of being ok with that I’m not
everyone’s cup of tea, that some people aren’t going to understand that. I asked myself “Does not being liked by a few
make me unlikable?” the answer is “no.”
I sat with “I am unlikable.” I asked “is this true?” again, “no”. I asked “What makes me unlikable to these
people? I am different. What do I gain from being different? I get to
be true to myself.” My body relaxes and softens around my solar plexus. “Is being true to who you truly are more
important to you than being liked, Keri? Yes.
Is it worth being disliked by people who may not understand you?
Yes. Can you like yourself in the face
of those who don’t like you and/or don’t understand you? Would you like someone
who is true to who they are in these circumstances as well over someone who
isn’t? Yes, I find it more admirable to
be yourself even when it is more difficult because others aren’t going to
understand. Do you think it is even
possible to be liked by everyone all the time? No. Do you think that those people who are often
liked by most people are unlikable when faced with the few that don’t like
them? No. Do you think that people often
dislike people simply because of their own challenges within themselves and it
often doesn’t have anything to do with the subject of their dislike? Yes.
Should the people who are often liked by most others dislike themselves because
of the few who disapprove of them? No.
Should anyone, for that matter, dislike his/herself because anyone or
everyone dislikes him/her? No.” And yet
I often find myself troubled in the face of this. I would say that it is insanity, the
perpetual wheel of my own existence mattering to others more than I do. It always comes back around to me being in
approval of myself, despite and especially when others are not in approval of
me. The truth is, it is actually harder
for me to be on the other end of it. It
is easier for me to be on the defensive and assume that others don’t like me
then it is for me to face that others do like me and even more so when it is
not just like me, but a deep appreciation, connection, and love for me; then I
really don’t know how to handle it. Deep
thoughts by Jack Handy, lol, not really, they are by me, but my mind is
overactive for the moment and I became concerned about copyright. Anyway, they reminded me of his useless
ramblings and I felt the need to justify my desire to post these useless ramblings
perchance they are of some value to someone regardless of my opinion that they
are useless.
